RE: Fw: Get to know a ...

Ah, if it only were this simple! Even if abstinence is advised in the home,
or even in the schools (not likely in public schools), young women (and men)
are submerged in a culture that discourages abstinence. Just look at the
life style that is apparently portrayed in movies and by the media (I write
"apparently," because I have not been inside a movie theatre for many
years). The general attitude is that 1) if it feels good, do it, 2) there
are no repercussions and 3) if there are, there is a technological fix
(abortion).

It's interesting that, now that smoking is seen as not being very healthy,
smoking had virtually disappeared from TV (and, I assume, movies as well).
However, there was an article in the local paper the other day that smoking
is working its way back into movies. The gist of the article was that
bringing smoking back into movies is not a good idea. Imagine if the same
argument was used to discourage illicit sex!

Another aspect that tends to get lost in the debate is the biological
difference between men and woman. "It is better to give than to receive"
comes to mind. Finally, there are too many cases where the woman has little
or no choice in the matter and her "no!" is of little consequence to the
assailant. Yes, women need to say "no" to sex but the men need to listen!

Chuck Vandergraaf

-----Original Message-----
From: asa-owner@lists.calvin.edu [mailto:asa-owner@lists.calvin.edu] On
Behalf Of Alexanian, Moorad
Sent: Tuesday, March 21, 2006 9:48 AM
To: Freeman, Louise Margaret; asa@calvin.edu
Subject: RE: Fw: Get to know a ...

Perhaps the most important choice in these matters is for women to say
no to sex. The latter is what ought to be emphasized at home, as well
as, at school.

Moorad

-----Original Message-----
From: asa-owner@lists.calvin.edu [mailto:asa-owner@lists.calvin.edu] On
Behalf Of Freeman, Louise Margaret
Sent: Tuesday, March 21, 2006 7:35 AM
To: asa@calvin.edu
Subject: Re: Fw: Get to know a ...

I'll add one too. Get to know a young woman who's pregnant, and afraid
to tell her
parents. Or one who's told her parents and been told to expect no help
from them. Or one
who's told the baby's father and been told to expect no help from him.
Or one whose
parents are more concerned about getting her married immediately than
they are about
geting her prenatal care. Or one whose boyfriend is pressuring her
daily to abort.
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Louise M. Freeman, PhD
Psychology Dept
Mary Baldwin College
Staunton, VA 24401
540-887-7326
FAX 540-887-7121
Received on Tue Mar 21 11:29:26 2006